I don’t know about you, but
any time I start something new this creepy feeling of fear kicks in and I
don’t’ like it, but it’s time to overcome it in a big way. Most of us are aware
that fear is just a false perception, it has absolutely no base in reality it’s
just a figment of our imagination. Just like the boogie man who lives under the
bed, but not really. Fear means False Evidence Appearing Real. But why does it
Fear is rooted in so many
false beliefs. Fear of sucking, fear of being rejected, fear of looking like a
fool, fear of not being liked or ridiculed, fear of not being qualified, fear
of failure, fear of success and I am sure there are many more that I am not
even mentioning. All these fears keep us in bondage, imprisoned in our lives
all the while they are depleting the very life force out of us and diminishing
Whether you are an artist,
writer, dancer, musician, teacher, comedian, etc. allowing yourself to come out
of the closet can be a scary thing. There you are exposed for the whole world
to see, cellulite, warts, zits and all. This can make one feel vulnerable. Allow
your self to be transparent and exposed for the whole world to see.
We keep ourselves stuck in thinking we
are not enough. We allow our self to believe we don't have
enough experience, knowledge or training. In most cases these are all lies
we tell ourselves to keep us in bondage to our limiting thoughts and belief
systems. We keep entertaining these postponing techniques to keep us
from ever making a move towards our dreams and desires.
What if they don’t like you, what if you are
criticized, or judged?
Who cares. The only thing that is getting
offended is the ego and we don’t need it anyway. We don’t need to be liked. We
don’t need the approval of others, the emotional support or the social ‘likes’.
We only need our own approval, our own Self acceptance and our own Self love.
Our ego has 4 identities or aspects to it.
They are masks that we wear and show to the world. The first one is the Mamakaara (Sanskrit) this is how we feel
about our self which is usually lower than what we are. The second is the Ahamkaara and that is what we project
out into the world to cover up the Mamakaara
and this is usually higher than what we are at the moment. The third is the
Swa-Anyakaara and that is how we see
others and life. The fourth is the Anyakaara
and that is how others see us. When one or all of these are out of alignment we
not living in reality we are living in a false reality which is based in an
illusionary aspect of our self. The best and quickest way to bring all of these
in alignment is to work on the Mamakaara
how we feel about our self and that is to raise our self to who we really are
and that is a unique being. There is no out there that is exactly like you. No
one has the special, unique talents and abilities that you have. The world
needs your gifts, your expressions, and your imprint on humanity to make a
If you feel there is too
much competition out there and there are too many people sharing a similar
message, take into consideration there are billions of people out there and
even if you reach out and inspire even just one soul your job is done. You came
here to do what you are meant to do and that is to serve others.
The only competition you
are facing is with your self, your own inner critic that can be your worst
enemy, as you may well know.
No one can express and
share what you have to say the way you have to say it or sing it.
Not expressing yourself
feels like betrayal of the Self. You know deep down inside your are lying to
yourself and others. You are not living an authentic life. This is spiritual suicide. The pain of not
using our unrecognized potential become to great to bear.
If we want to grow and
expand we have to face our fears, face the boogie man under the bed. Be willing
to be vulnerable and naked in front of the whole world to see. Having the
courage to really be yourself and letting yourself shine no matter what.
Finding your unique voice. Be willing to show your ‘dark side’ to others. Your
pain, your struggles, your so called perceived failures can all help someone
out who is going through the very same exact thing you just survived. When we
shine we silently give others the permission to radiate their uniqueness as
Whenever we first start
something we feel like we are not ready because we don’t have years of
experience but we all have to start somewhere and now is the time.
If we focus on excuses as
to why is not the right time we will only attract more and more excuses as to
why we cannot start now. We will find excuses and reasons to confirm this
The more we stay in our
comfort zone the more we contract and shrink in life. When you shrink you stunt
your growth and stifle your creativity.
We all have the choice to
either shrink and constrict or expand. Expansion involves taking risks and being
willing to feel like a fraud in the beginning. Every one has to start
somewhere. Even all the great masters and big influential personalities of
our times had to overcome fear, failure, rejections and obstacles on their
path. Great beings are not born they are made.
We need to be comfortable
with the uncomfortable this is how we flourish. No doubt there will be growing
pains but we can surpass them just by taking continuous action.
Don’t waste time in just dreaming
about it; start taking actions regardless of the outcome. Keep going and don't
give up on yourself. Stop sitting in the side -lines and letting life pass you
by, jump in the game and start playing.
You have heard the phrase
fake it until you make it I am changing it to 'conscious faking it until you
make it’. That is the difference. We just need to stop believing all the self-limiting
lies we have been telling our self and tap into our true being.
Enjoy the process
and journey as you learn something new. Allow yourself to get past
the learning curve. This is the only way self-confidence is built by
putting one foot in front of the other. Look at this experience as an
adventure. An adventure deep into your Soul’s capacity and brilliance.
Be brave and be willing to
be like the ‘fool’ in the tarot deck and leap into the unknown.
He represents a
new beginning, spontaneity and innocence. The depiction in the card is of
a young man stepping off of a cliff into the unknown
and unforeseen escape with all its risky undertakings.
The fool can be depicted as
being foolish and naive but in my opinion he is one of the best cards. He
shows the highest potential for your life, reaching a state of renewal, and new
beginnings, where each day is adventure and each moment is lived to the
So go ahead and step off
the ledge. You just may be surprised you do know how to fly. Your soul is
yearning to create and express itself. When we step into our being,
Cosmos expresses itself through our creativity then magic happens.